Disclaimer : Smoking is injurious to Health and so is Alcohol and other drugs. Images from Google.
A whole lot changes. When you become a teenager that is a great accomplishment. And a lot of things happen in the span of six years of the Teen-Age. Stating with the hormonal changes to beard and mustache. This is the crucial stages of anybody's life. It involves taking decisions for the Life which one would have to live with for the rest of his/her time. Some great accomplishments, some great beginnings and some great discoveries. All happens in this short span. Well, I won't its a short span of a life. For we face many changes with us as well as the 'life' around us. Some skills are to be learnt, some are to be tamed and most importantly some are to be avoided. Learning is a life long process and this small piece of life lays the foundation to the rest of the life : How you manage things, How you face problems, How you discover/ create / destroy and everything that you do has its foundation somewhere; which is this very era. We may not know what we are dealing with when we are playing the pat of a teenager and also we may not get the right conclusions post-teen on the actions which we encounter / face. But as for the time being let me bring out that the foundation to out behavior lies in this half a decade time period.
We make friends. We experience change. We go to college. We enjoy 'life' for we don't know what it contains in the times ahead. We just live the moment. And while in the process we feel happy, full of life and full with excitement. As we grow we make the decisions for our 'life' which we don't usually do in the teens. We follow the trend and live the moment. Starting with studies to science, iPods to gadgets, girlfriends/boyfriends to lovers : All are trending these days. I have also been a teen and I also quite well know about the situations and circumstances that the people are to be dealt with. "Is studies a problem?" ask a teenager or any person and the answer is predictable: "Studies suck and exams suck even more" . But is it what we go to school everyday? I guess not. There are friends. If only they weren't there the whole idea of school would absolutely be a waste.
There is hormonal imbalance and there is pulsating impulse in the young minds. If driven with utter care and acute precision, there would be wonders. But the mind doesn't take much of the studies. There are boys and there are girls. I am very much alarmed when a six yea old girl was speaking of boyfriend-girlfriend thing. I was like "What the hell?". All pretend not to like the idea, but god knows that they do, off-course I also know, but I ain't any God, :P . People, sorry I mean children have crush-es and there are a very few who are obedient and stay from those things. But the rest just wait for the opportunity to make fun of anyone who comes in the way. And another psychological gesture which I observed when I was a kid was that 'If a guy/girl has a crush on the opposite sex then they pretend to not to have any such feelings and this is followed by bullying the other friends who may or may not have any feelings for the person intended. It is an escape plan. Ya ya, I know, I was a boy psychologist, ok fine ! Just let me be happy for the fact that I know some facts on psychology.
Till high school there is a specific preferred curriculum. Parents are keen on making the best of the school and lay the paths for a better future. But a child is unaware of the path which lay ahead of him/her. Apart from studies there are a lot on the mind of the children. Whats that? I ask ! Never get those things with the elderly. Only a specific friend circle knows about it. Till the high school, the boundaries are limited. There are rules & restrictions which carry them aloft. Even with all these complications, there is a never ending stories which no one would like to share except with their friends, who already know. When the boundary is crossed, a sense of freedom comes to the mind as well as the soul; the soul in the sense that rules would be quite liberal and will have the freedom to do whatever that pleases. In the same time period, all lot of things happen. Now the hormones start speaking. Sometimes the college or the exam stress takes a heavy toll. Then the results! Deranged and depressed students tend to incline towards sources which would help them forget. Yeah, I am talking about Cigarette and Alcohol and drugs. Its' actually hard for me to understand why do they do what they do! Because I am not one of them and would never like go take that road ever. So probably, I may never know. Though my observation gives a little insight, I guess. Ya ya I know I don't have any first hand experience about it, but what wrong in trying to explain with the help of the observations I have made. And also a friend of mine has given me a perspective from his side as he was once a , lets say a victim of those stuff. He regrets that he had ever done those things and is trying to get out of the cocoon which he made himself. We all know that once addicted, its difficult to get rid of it completely, but a timely and strict rules would sometimes help. And I would like to share the conversation which we had some six months back in Facebook.
Confession of Drug-Addict
AK : yup. i write. !
RG : Yet hav followers
AK : yup, something like 100 !!
RG : So hws life??? Long tym
U surely hav used ur work productively
AK : ya, life's gud. !!
you could say that way.. !!
so hows your life going on ?
RG : Gud ... n messed up in all wrng stufff
AK : wrong stuff means ??
RG : u dunt wanna knw dat brother
AK : hmm, i would like to know.. !
RG : smoking booze n soft drugs .... though drugs nomore
n trying to quit smoking
AK : hmm,
what made you go for drugs ??
RG : had been weed addict for sum tym .... but sum hw no more
AK : oh, stress ??
RG : naaah its kinda common in clg
AK : then ?
RG : i mean my clg is famous for architechture n planing worldwide
AK : just fun ?
RG : n infamous for all d wrong stuff
AK : so you guys are mAK : ing it famous for the infamous also. ??
RG : yaaa kind off
AK : haha lol !
RG : every one in the clg ..is into weed
AK : oh gr8 !
RG : so initaally i started jst like dat
but den got habitual
AK : as fun?
RG : yaa
AK : obvious. it becomes a habit.
RG : but got rid off of it eventually
AK : so total clean now ??
or still sometimes ?
RG : smoking n liquor
not trying to get control ova dem as well
wat abt u ?????
AK : i am total clean
no drugs, no smoke,
RG : u neva tried or neva tempted towrds all dis ???
AK : nope.
RG : wow .... nice
12th tAK : : even i was like i wudnt try
but company affects
AK : ya,, college mein hota hai
RG : so wat nxt???
4th yr isnt it
AK : higher studies.. !
RG : but higher studies???? in at????
mtech ya mba ???
AK : mba. sort of !
RG : so started with the preparation ????
AK : ah nope. !!
RG : wen did u start with photography n stufff???
AK : just a hobby. last year,, when i got the cam
RG : k gr8 doesnt luk like it has been jst a yr ....
AK : oh, really! ?
RG : wat abt ur brother ???
wr is he nw ??? vch clg ??
AK : hmm,
beter dnt ask.. !!
he outsmarted me !
RG : iit????
AK : he is in IIT
RG : wow ..iit k .... vch stream ?????
AK : ya.
and 5years, mtech + btech both !
RG : better i stopall my wrng deed n conc sum constructive thngs
AK : you should. !!
RG : mera b 5 yr course hai ... but its btech hons
AK : oh, civil engineering, right ?
RG : yup
AK : is it for 5 years??
RG : yaa btech hons .... degree is diff
v r suppose to do thesis n stuff
AK : oh, then you shoud conc on studies rather than those stuff /
RG : as i said clg is knwn in construction field ... so as such i wud hav ny prob
AK : oh okay.. !!
RG : yaa even i think so .... planning to try my hand on upsc
but dat wud need loads hardwork
AK : oh gud.. !
and for that may be you should stop smoking also and drinking also !!
RG : yaa i knw ... trying really hard frm last 1 month
AK : well thats a gud start /
RG : sum wat i hav it is in contrl
even sethy is into all dis stufff
AK : oh he too.. !!
RG : n i was the one hu taught him how to smoke weed haha
AK : oh !!
i think he is done with his studies . right ?
RG : atleast i hav realised it now dayt i sud stop .... n he is like chalta hai i wud continue
yaaa luking for job
AK : symbiosis something , right ?
RG : yaaa bba
AK : k, so what else did you teach him ?
RG : nuthing more ... he wat into alldis before
he used to smoke weed but dint knw hw to roll
AK : oh obviously he would.. he was kind of ahead of all us in these things.. !!
RG : so jst taught him dat
AK : k
RG : srsly wen i see other ppl nw hu hav used thr tym constructively i feel m in total mess
AK : oh,
then you should seriously work hard on that !
RG : yaaa i hav tAK : en steps forward in dat direction
i hope i get rid of it
AK : good.
RG : so wat else
nuff bou me
AK : you must say.. !!
so what else you want to know about me ?
RG : gf ???
AK : ah, nope. !! not that good with girls !!
RG : still on same as in skul
AK : oh great !
so how many ??
AK : 50 ?
RG : nuhting srs as off nw ... but gud frns
i aint dat gud
AK : okay .!
oh you are gud dude. !:)
RG : thanx
u r welcome !
RG : flings ... many girls but srs thng was with one girl
AK : was? not now ?
RG : n now no more interested in girls dat way
AK : oh why ?
what happened ?
RG : gud frnds ... healthy flirting once in a while dats it
AK : k,
RG : was not able to tAK : e the brk up in a healthy manner
so decide better to step back frm all dis
AK : oh, you guys broke up ?
RG : n girls can really distract u imp stuff
AK : what happened ?
ya, i know !
you saw pyaar ka punchnama ??
RG : nuhting things din work out ...
yaa love dat muve
AK : me too !
RG : i felt as if sumone was toking to b by the means of dat muve hahha
AK : total reality .. !
RG : *to me
AK : haha ..
RG : srsly ... no offence but dey are bitch .... but nmot all
AK : not all ..
. hmm i am guessing ..
AK : you like someone !
RG : naah nuthing of dat sort
wat bou u ???
no crush or nything
AK : gud friends ??
kk , i got you !!
so what it gonna be tomorrow for you then?
RG : dunno yt may b sum concert of sumthing
AK : i stay away from girls !! almost all the time !
oh good. !
so gng with your friends and spl friend ??
RG : btw keep a chk on ur iitian brother.... once in iit hostel guys are pron to pick all dis stuff
AK : ya i know... i will.. ! thanks btw !
RG : so in hostel ????
or home swet home??
AK : hostel.. !!
AK : it *sucks* !!
and you ?
RG : home sweet home
AK : you stay at home and still try those stuff ??
RG : management skills dats y planning for mba hahaha
AK : hahah lol !!
RG : it tAK : es sum balls to cum home stoned ... n dunt let ny1 knw wat i hav been upto
AK : good managing though !!
how do you manage btw !!
isnt it hard??
RG : thanx ... dats y mba is apt for me ....
AK : to act nornal ??
RG : once u stat all dat stuff u find means to stay normal as well
AK : ohi get it !!
RG : n over a period of tym u get used to it
AK : so you became a *pro* !
RG : i dunt tAK : e dat as compliment
AK : jus kiddin..
RG : yaa i knw
bt one thing is for sure my driving skils improve once m drunk or stoned:P
AK : so same house besides swagat 3 ??
RG : yaaaa
AK : oh great !!
so you do stunts on bike ??
RG : naah nuthing of dat sort .... i hate stunts n all dat
faltu ka shiow shaa
AK : oh,
i see !
RG : its jst dat i knw hw i m driving ...
AK : i thought you like stunts !!
RG : even i traffic i mange to drive well ...
AK : oh k !! thats gud. !!
RG : confession of drug addict title of ur nxt blog
AK : hahh,, do you want me to write ??
if i do write , i will change your name !
RG : so ru gonna really write bou it or wat???
AK : yup, i may. !!
shouldnt i ?
i mean its about you.. so
RG : go ahead i dnt hav ny prob
AK : if you dont want, i wont..!!
ok then !
RG : i mean it sumthing 60% teenage guys are going thru
AK : yeah, i will mAK : e it general !!
not about you but basically abt teenagers !!
RG : yaa .. wud no longer b a teen in a month
AK : oh then you dont have to worry !!
happy birthday in advance !!
RG : i wud mAK : e sure dat in 20s i wud b nuhitng like in my teens
AK : gud,, !
you are welcome !
RG : btw all dis must also b common in ur hostel
AK : you should make a that resolution on your b'day !!
not drugs though.. !!
except this everything is common.. !
RG : drugs toh katham
AK : smoking?
RG : it has been more den 4 months now
AK : drinking ?
oh that sounds gud,
that you are in control !
RG : yaa smoking is the main issue ... cos i dunt think drinking is a prob
drinking on occasion or jst to celebrate in limit is fyn
AK : okay, wat abt smoking ?
RG : yaa redued to 1 cig per day now
n soon it wud once in 2 or 3 days
AK : then ?
RG : n den gradully i wud stop
i hav given myself 4 months to quit it
AK : ok,, gud. !! but you have be on your word.. !!
RG : cos u cant stop ol of a sudden
AK : ya,,
it takes time.. !
RG : dat cravin is insane
AK : oh,,
RG : chal it was gud toking to u aft so long
AK : yeah, you too !!
and stop those stuff as soon as possible...
Teenagers have a lot of pressure on their minds. Whether it is school/college work, higher studies and other activities, all take a toll on the mind of the student. And they want to relax their mind in some way. There are some lousy friends who would suggest that the drugs or alcohol or cigarette relaxes the mind. But they fail to understand is that they become a habit and its not easy to let them go. When it comes to cigarette/alcohol/ drugs the people say to themselves this is the one time they would take them or just to know the taste. But it eventually gets a habit on a daily basis and getting rid of it is very very painful. So, it is better to avoid rather than getting addicted and then trying to get clean.
I would suggest to avoid such things. And for the people who are already in them, I would suggest to get some help and try to avoid. It ultimately destroys the health. And no matter what you do after 20-30 years, you seriously can't help it except REGRET! Better take care now itself.